Talking about: Looking for Someone

Of course my first post will be about something we all have to deal with...Dating. These days its so hard to find someone who fits the criteria that you are looking for. One question I always found myself asking is, is it me? Maybe my/your lists are too long and so the only person that would be able to meet the criteria would have to be hand crafted by you yourself. So what i did was I made a list of Qualities I want in a man and Listed some things in those areas i needed to work on myself. Here is the beginning of this list:

Qualities I want in a man
(and qualities they need in me)

1.  Trustworthy

My trust right now is broken. I have a hard time trusting in what people say. I’ve been lied to so much in the past year it’s just ridiculous. I am slowly learning to trust people but not too much to where I end up getting hurt. I just need to remember what happens when I put too much trust in people and I should be okay.

On the flip side I myself have to be honest I tend to hide things or not speak up on what I feel just so I can keep from getting my feelings hurt. This isn’t good because I’ll bottle it up and the truth will just explode out and that never has a good outcome.

This is just the first thing on my list since i just started but I think this will help me with what I need to be ready for a relationship.

Another thing I'm learning is that my communication is off. To be in an relationship you need to be able to

communicate effectively. Your partner is not a mind reader and doesn't know how you feel unless you tell them. You also need to keep in mind that you also need to listen to what your partner is trying to communicate. Ladies, If you meet a guy and he says:

"I am not looking for a relationship right now, I am just looking for someone to hang out, and have fun wit"

Do not go into anything with him thinking that you will be able to change his mind. Chances are that you want a relationship and if he is saying that he is not looking for one then that is what he means. Too many women hear this, and say "okay that's fine" thinking that eventually down the line you will be able to change his mind. Heads up, you won't. all that will happen is that you will get tired of waiting for something he said he never wanted to happen in the first place and more than likely still doesn't and when you approach him about it all he will say is:

"I told you from the beginning that, i never wanted to be in a relationship so I don't understand why your upset when you said the same thing."

Moral of this story is: The most important part of building anything is the foundation. Make sure that it is honest, strong, and exactly what you want.