When I was beginning to write this post I really had to dig deep. Being that I am a woman I thought this would be easy but I have never cheated, so how would I know the answer to this question? First of all i thought about it and i had to narrow it down because some women cheat for the same reasons men do which i honestly think is, because they can. So then i asked the question: Why do good women cheat? So I asked my mother and sisters and aunts for the reasons why they think good women cheat and this is what they said that really made sense to me. They asked me if i ever cheated and I said no. Then they asked if i had ever thought about cheating and that when I knew, I knew what could push a woman to cheat.
Women are emotional people, we like affection we like to know that we are loved. When we are in a relationship with someone we like to know we are appreciated. When we are not we begin to check out mentally and emotionally. That's when you'll start to see our mind wander a lot more and we'll seem distant. This does not mean that we are not still in love it is actually our love for you that is keeping us in that relationship. We are thinking of all the good times, and fond memories we've made and the nostalgia of all of that keeps us from leaving because at this point we've convinced our self that this is just a rough patch. Even after we've decided to keep you around you don't make it easier for us we still don't feel appreciated. That's when HE shows up. HE is just our type, pays attention to us and tells us how much we are appreciated which is what we've wanted from you all along. For me this is the point where i either leave the relationship or cut all ties with HIM. HE never has to do much, all HE has to do is listen and HE is in. Once we let HIM in it is a wrap. You can always tell, we go from sad and depressed looking, to happy and alive. We are still taking care of things around the house, part of not being appreciated is the lack of sex so that isn't a problem but one thing will never change throughout all of this however and that is the distance.
Long story short, when good women cheat it is almost always because of feeling under appreciated and it comes from and emotional place. Which is why no man can take the thought of their women cheating. They know deep in their hearts that their woman is emotionally connected to what ever man it is that they were cheating with. Women while we are never okay with our man cheating, we know that unless it is an ex or someone they have a past romantic history with it is probably just about sex. I am not excusing cheating in any way but all I'm saying is a GOOD, HAPPY woman doesn't cheat.
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