Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Talking About: Staying in your lane

  Why do some people feel the need to try to control something that has nothing to do with them. If it's not broke then don't fix it, meaning, if i'm not complaining about it then don't try to help and don't try to change nothing for example:

Relationships:
Some women want to control everything about their man. This confuses me because it's like if  you want a child, then have a baby. Nothing makes me cringe more than hearing a woman talk to her man like he is a child. Or when a woman takes her man to meet her parents, she tries to make him cover up certain things like tattoos, or makes him lie about his job or basically tells him not to be himself. If your parents approval means that much to you and you think that they will not like him as he is then it's kind of simple, don get into a relationship with him and do not take him home. Just like you shouldn't have to change or hide who you are for his parents, he should not have to  hide or change who he is for yours. Guys you are not exempt from this. They will try to control a woman from the clothes she wears to the company she keeps and like i said to the ladies. If this is bothering you that much to the point where you feel like you need to control her it's time to let her go.

Family:  
Family really trips me out, they are the quickest to put their two sense into something that has nothing to do with them. Like I have a friend whose mother is always trying to set her up on dates with random guys, and signing her up for dating websites all because "she wants grand children". This is the ultimate form of overstepping boundaries. I don't know why some parents try to control their ADULT children's lives. they may be YOUR child but they are NOT A child. Some decisions are not yours to make and even though you may want something from them they have to want it for themselves. Step back and let them  live their lives.

Friendships: 
Some friends are so close that they think that they have a say in what you do. Giving suggestions is one thing but when you are straight up telling them how to live their life you are DEAD WRONG. It is not up to you how they live their life and I;m pretty sure if it was the other way around you would be up set.

I think that everyone has a lance and a place that they need to stay in. I also think that everyone is guilty of overstepping boundaries once or twice and all I have to say to you all and myself is, how would you feel if it was done to you.

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